Have you ever looked at a title of a book, website, movie, TV show, etc and immediately *think* you know exactly what the person behind the concept is thinking?
Come on, you know you have.
One of the reasons I chose the title of my blog was because it was something I actually said… a lot. I think I may have started saying Momma Needs a BEER! before I was officially a Momma. It felt like a natural fit.
The downside of going with a fun, somewhat edgy title for your blog?
The unsolicited judgement.
And I get both extremes!
The nervous, passive-aggressive chuckle: “Huh, you have a ‘blog’? And it’s Momma Needs a Beer?! Oh, um, kay… that’s cute *under their breath as they walk away* —> alcoholic….”
Really, people? Sure, I suppose I could be that Momma. I could. Anyone can be anyone on the internet, right? But, I would love to see how attitudes may change if these same judgy-judys just took a second to actually read my blog, and maybe, oh, I dunno, got to know me before assuming I’m pounding a case of beer every night. Come on, I haven’t done that since my 20s.
On the flip-side, there’s the positive feedback, such as “Momma Needs a Beer?! HA!! BRILLIANT!!! Where have you been all my life?!”
Yeah, yeah, I realize that sounds incredibly narcissistic, but honestly, people do say that to me.
And then… there’s the silent judgment.
… which is always fun. How do I know? Oh, believe me, when you’re a writer, you can feel it. The lack of responses to pictures, tweets, posts… and the painful lack of invitations & offers in your inbox. Ouch.
There are days I have to make the tough choice to — get this — shut down my social media channels.
I know… crazy, huh? I apologize for the pain I just caused your jaw.
And yes, I’m happy for my friends, and I like hearing about awesome events… I just… wish I could be there with them, ya know, instead of sitting at home watching photos scrolling on a feed from my laptop, without a bra, in my elastic-waisted-pants that probably haven’t seen the inside of a washer in 2 weeks.
So I find myself suffering from FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) as I hear about brands who personally invite fellow bloggers to events I will never get an invite to, partially because of the title of my blog. Looking at you, Disney Social Media Moms and many other events meant for, ya know, the more “serious” &/or big bloggers. Doesn’t matter that I wrote about some very heavy & serious topics regarding my niece’s tragedy, or even a week-long, detailed series on Disney World last year… I’m not holding my breath waiting for an invite to these “serious” events.
I’ve always felt like MommaNeedsABeer.com is a space I personally built & I play by my own rules. I shouldn’t have to make excuses or defend my choices.
If I feel like writing about beer for a month, then switch back to a post about parenting, or randomly throwing a recipe out there, etc — to quote Cartman “Whateva, I do what I want!”
The trade-off? Writing what I believe in without allowing the FOMO get to me. Or the unsolicited judgment. Or the stats falling. Or the money not rolling in from offers.
So I’ve been focusing my attention on what’s authentic to me.
If brands don’t want to work with or even be associated with me because they have an issue with the title of my blog… or because I write too much about beer, don’t get deep enough into beer, or focus too much on my home-town or state, or don’t write enough about my kids, or write too much about my kids… etc, etc, that’s not necessarily my problem. And… I probably didn’t want to work with that particular judgy brand or person to begin with! #thereisaidit
This is my party, and I’ll write what I want to.
Now… on WordPress.
Oh, wait… did you not notice?! YES! After 420 posts (no lie: 420) on blogger…*drumroll* I am officially MommaNeedsABeer.com !
No more blogspot, better SEO, easier for people to find and read, etc. A special shout-out to the hubs who’s been working his ass off getting things transferred from blogger. He has been juggling a lot, and to throw this at him [a year ago] along with other random bullshit I throw at him on a daily basis, well, it has been an experience. Would I hire someone next time? Probably… not. Fact is, the hubs knew what I wanted changed, and what I wanted to keep the same… and he knows
how picky, demanding, passionate ME. He worked hard to not only transfer 420 posts from blogger, but kept most of the design & format.
I’m still dealing with quite the learning curve getting it to look exactly the way I’d like, but take a look around. Have you checked out my fancy-pants drop-down menus!! Oh yeah!
So cheers to the hubs, and cheers to all of you. Whether you’re toasting with a beer, cocktail, coffee, water, etc — Thanks for being the non-judgmental, supportive readers a gal can feel comfortable expressing her honest-to-goodness thoughts to.
You guys rock.