I’ve never been one to conform to a solitary circle of friends.
I was a very shy child.
Yes, the bold chic you enjoy laughing with? Shy until age 15, ok, maybe 22.
I had friends in my neighborhood I hung out with.
I had friends in school that I got along with.
But… I didn’t develop a close friendship with anyone until 5th grade, and as soon as the friendship was solidified to BFF status, our school dropped the junior high grades, and we were shlepped off to different schools.
This happened to me 5 times in 6 years. The schools I attended kept closing, merging and adjusting the grades they would offer.
It was not easy to maintain a friendship during those tough adolescent years. Let’s face it, those years just plain suck to begin with. I hated change. I feared it.
The only constant in my life during those adolescent years? Music & theater. Thank goodness for some level of a constant. Even though I’d get little to no positive feedback from my parents, a mentor or friend would fill that void, nurturing my budding talent. Music & theater people were also as diverse as the schools I was switching in & out of.
Looking back, all of those changes helped me develop into the passionate person I am today.
I learned to believe in myself even when no one else did. I learned how to deal with a diverse array of people, because I never felt that I should only hang out with friends within a certain circle/clique/cult/whathaveyou. Even though it scared me a little, I enjoyed getting to know new people, while maintaining the old friendships. Sure, I had my circles… but I never conformed to one. I was a floater. My best friend to this day was also (and still is!) a floater, and I think that’s one of the many things that bonded us.
Cut to today.. and I’m still a floater. This is evident on my blog — straddling the line between beer, parent & humor blog, I follow many humor, parenting & beer bloggers, but I don’t limit myself to those niches either.
Because I write for the sake of writing.
I started this blog for me. For my family.
Some people don’t understand the therapy writing can provide. Some of my friends don’t understand publishing anything online — to them, I may as well be walking naked through the hallways of high-school. Although, I do occasionally feel that way when I hit publish on certain posts.
Look, I get privacy, and I don’t publish every damn thing that happens on a daily basis. Trust me, my life is not that exciting. Hell, there are posts where I won’t even publish names or pictures. I write what I want, when I feel like it (unless I’m getting paid for it of course, then I’ll follow some level of rules). I still maintain a handful of secrets that only my closest loved ones are privy to.
But what good is life if you only do the same thing day in & day out? Never challenging yourself to break outside of your comfort zone? To open up your mind to a discussion on religion or politics that your opinion will likely be challenged on? To explore a new restaurant or vacation spot instead of the same comfy-cozy destination? Sure, by sticking with your traditional choices, you may know what to expect; m
aybe the comfort of a routine with similar faces & places is vital to your survival.
But… is the safe, predictable path always the best?
Look, I’m guilty of doing all of the above! Nobody’s perfect, and I suppose that’s my point.
The most exciting years of my life [so far] have been years of great change. Taking chances, expanding my comfort-zone to discover something new, meeting new people, moving to a new city or home, starting a new job, getting married, having a baby, etc. I definitely felt fear as I stumbled through these somewhat scary, risky
From my experience, change = growth.
If a friend or relative can’t support or simply accept my passion for wanting more from my life: online or off… unfortunately, that’s their loss. I may choose to live my life honestly, out-loud and occasionally with a little risk involved, but I refuse to apologize for it.
Life is good, and I intend to embrace it.
“Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don’t matter,
and those who matter don’t mind.”
~ Dr Seuss
“Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult,
but not more difficult than remaining in a situation,
which is not nurturing to the whole woman.”
~ Maya Angelou
“You have enemies? Good.
That means you’ve stood up for something,
sometime in your life.”
~ Winston Churchill