Accepting Change

I’ve never been one to conform to a solitary circle of friends. 


I was a very shy child. 
Yes, the bold chic you enjoy laughing with? Shy until age 15, ok, maybe 22. 

I had friends in my neighborhood I hung out with. 

I had friends in school that I got along with. 

But… I didn’t develop a close friendship with anyone until 5th grade, and as soon as the friendship was solidified to BFF status, our school dropped the junior high grades, and we were shlepped off to different schools. 

This happened to me 5 times in 6 years. The schools I attended kept closing, merging and adjusting the grades they would offer. 

It was not easy to maintain a friendship during those tough adolescent years. Let’s face it, those years just plain suck to begin with. I hated change. I feared it.

The only constant in my life during those adolescent years? Music & theater. Thank goodness for some level of a constant. Even though I’d get little to no positive feedback from my parents, a mentor or friend would fill that void, nurturing my budding talent. Music & theater people were also as diverse as the schools I was switching in & out of. 

Looking back, all of those changes helped me develop into the passionate person I am today. 

I learned to believe in myself even when no one else did. I learned how to deal with a diverse array of people, because I never felt that I should only hang out with friends within a certain circle/clique/cult/whathaveyou. Even though it scared me a little, I enjoyed getting to know new people, while maintaining the old friendships. Sure, I had my circles… but I never conformed to one. I was a floater. My best friend to this day was also (and still is!) a floater, and I think that’s one of the many things that bonded us. 

Cut to today.. and I’m still a floater. This is evident on my blog — straddling the line between beer, parent & humor blog, I follow many humor, parenting & beer bloggers, but I don’t limit myself to those niches either. 

Why?

Because I write for the sake of writing. 

I started this blog for me. For my family

I enjoy capturing the good, the bad & the so-help-me-GAWD-awful-where-is-my-damn-beer days… searching for some level of positivity within them. Whether that’s through hindsight: this-moment-was-beyond-stressful-yet-if-I-witnessed-it-I-may-have-laughed or I-actually-learned-something-from-this-sucky-moment or the ZOMG-this-moment-was-so-hard-to-keep-a-straight-face-through. Writing through moments like these provide clarity and the chance to reflect, then move forward. 

Some people don’t understand the therapy writing can provide. Some of my friends don’t understand publishing anything online — to them, I may as well be walking naked through the hallways of high-school. Although, I do occasionally feel that way when I hit publish on certain posts. 

Look, I get privacy, and I don’t publish every damn thing that happens on a daily basis. Trust me, my life is not that exciting. Hell, there are posts where I won’t even publish names or pictures. I write what I want, when I feel like it (unless I’m getting paid for it of course, then I’ll follow some level of rules). I still maintain a handful of secrets that only my closest loved ones are privy to. 

But what good is life if you only do the same thing day in & day out? Never challenging yourself to break outside of your comfort zone? To open up your mind to a discussion on religion or politics that your opinion will likely be challenged on? To explore a new restaurant or vacation spot instead of the same comfy-cozy destination? Sure, by sticking with your traditional choices, you may know what to expect; maybe the comfort of a routine with similar faces & places is vital to your survival.

But… is the safe, predictable path always the best? 


Look, I’m guilty of doing all of the above! Nobody’s perfect, and I suppose that’s my point. 

The most exciting years of my life [so far] have been years of great change. Taking chances, expanding my comfort-zone to discover something new, meeting new people, moving to a new city or home, starting a new job, getting married, having a baby, etc. I definitely felt fear as I stumbled through these somewhat scary, risky changes

From my experience, change = growth. 

If a friend or relative can’t support or simply accept my passion for wanting more from my life: online or off… unfortunately, that’s their loss. I may choose to live my life honestly, out-loud and occasionally with a little risk involved, but I refuse to apologize for it. 

Life is good, and I intend to embrace it.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, 
because those who mind don’t matter, 
and those who matter don’t mind.”
~ Dr Seuss
“Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, 
but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, 
which is not nurturing to the whole woman.”
~ Maya Angelou

“You have enemies? Good. 

That means you’ve stood up for something, 

sometime in your life.” 

~ Winston Churchill


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20 Comments

  1. Posted May 30, 2012 at 1:21 pm | Permalink

    I LOVE that you recognize that you write this blog for you – and not for a niche. Recently I was asked if I would ever sell advertising on my blog, and for now, I would have to say no, and not because I think advertising is bad, but because I’m worried it would change why I write and what I write. Some days are funny, some days are just plain shit and I have to be able to live in both camps. I look forward to reading more of your work – visiting from Pour Your Heart Out

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:49 pm | Permalink

      Good for you, Emily!! I struggle with ads & paid-posts as well, but I don’t complain when the [tiny amount of] money rolls in. HA! It isn’t easy rolling with the punches life throws at ya… but sometimes writing about it just helps sort through the bullshit. Thanks for stopping by!

  2. Posted May 30, 2012 at 1:23 pm | Permalink

    This post hit home. You sound a lot like me. I am also a floater. I connect with people who get me. I don’t do cliques. I just like genuine relationships and people.

    I do share some of myself online and even more in real life because I think all of ourselves is what makes us beautifully human. If anyone in my life can’t get that, then I’ve come to realize that they really don’t need to be in my life.

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

      I was very much an outcast in elementary school, so the whole clique-thing always rubbed me the wrong way. Not including someone because of one thing or another? Why? Just doesn’t make sense to me.

      Thanks for the positive feedback, Jessica!

  3. Posted May 30, 2012 at 1:25 pm | Permalink

    Love this post and am with you on it. We don’t grow without the challenges. Stumbled upon you via PYHO, Glad I came by!

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

      Thanks so much, Ilene.

      Love the name of your blog. I’ll be stopping by yours very soon!! CHEERS!

  4. Posted May 30, 2012 at 1:35 pm | Permalink

    Sister, I have to say… I absolutely love reading your blog and the fact that each day is different, you are not afraid to put yourself out there, nor or you relying on anyone to confirm or deny your actions/beliefs, is why I love you so much! All my life I have been a bit of a conformist, and it hasn’t been until… um… my later years (you know what I am getting at – haha), that I realized that life is worth living and living to the fullest. After my grandma passed, well, I hit a big bump for a bit, but then I took off full speed ahead and took risks, changed things up, and am moving forward in my life with purpose. 🙂 You are the real deal and I couldn’t be more honored to be in someone’s circle of life.

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:55 pm | Permalink

      GA! You just made me cry!! Thanks for always accepting me for ME… and being one of my biggest supporters. You mean the world to me, and I hope you know that I’m always here for you & your family too. You *are* living your life to the fullest and it shows. XO!

  5. Posted May 30, 2012 at 1:54 pm | Permalink

    Love it! What a very cool post. I was super shy growing up too, so can totally relate to that aspect. I love the Kurt Cobain quote too – most excellent.

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Jocelyn! It wasn’t easy being the “shy-girl” growing up, was it? Glad we’ve overcome it. Cheers to that! Or, rather… virgin-mojito cheers? Seriously — virgin mojitos are almost as good as the real thing. Cheers anyway. 😉

  6. Posted May 30, 2012 at 2:37 pm | Permalink

    I always found it hard to fit into a niche. I was always just me and what I thought/did never fit nicely into a box. That was HARD back in junior high. *shudder*

    Thankfully, I think there are a lot of us in blog land who don’t fit neatily into a box.

    • Posted May 30, 2012 at 3:02 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Shell! Yes, that whole clique-thing threw me for awhile… especially being so shy growing up. But it was a good lesson. Being the outcast taught me to accept everyone for who they are, not to shun them because of one thing or another. One of the best life-lessons I could’ve learned, really.

      Thanks again for hosting PYHO! CHEERS!

  7. Posted May 30, 2012 at 3:48 pm | Permalink

    There is such freedom in your writing and not conforming to a niche! What a wonderful post.

  8. Posted May 30, 2012 at 6:01 pm | Permalink

    Its great to not have a niche! Makes for more interesting writing. And I agree, Its more for me, if people happen to stop by and like it then yay, if not oh well!

    • Posted May 31, 2012 at 12:32 pm | Permalink

      Yes, blocking yourself into a niche… or a clique for that matter… can be very limiting.

      Thanks for stopping by, Audrey!

  9. Posted May 31, 2012 at 9:40 am | Permalink

    It’s pretty easy, those who have a life also subscribe in the “live and let live” motto. Those who don’t keep themselves busy by judging others.

    • Posted May 31, 2012 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

      That is true. Judgment & cliques do tend to go hand-in-hand, don’t they? Can’t we all just get along and accept one another’s faults, successes, and everything in between?

  10. Posted June 4, 2012 at 8:51 am | Permalink

    I just heard an interesting perspective on niche that niche is not a category. That category is beer blogger, humor blogger, etc. but niche is “what you do”. And I think you clearly and consistently come through as honest and humor infused. I think that’s what you do well.

    • Posted June 4, 2012 at 5:34 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Alissa! That is an interesting perspective. I just don’t want to get “locked-in” to people expecting every post to be funny, or about beer, or even about my family! Sometimes, I just want to post a recipe… or my opinion on… whatever it is I’m thinking about that day. I like the thought of my niche being “what I do” which is… write. Thanks for the compliment & support, as always!

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